
As a now-single mom of 5, its been hard on me too. How do I do it all? How do I be everywhere I need to be physically and emotionally? I've been burned out and exhausted. I bitch and moan and pick myself back up. But, even on the worst days, I have no regrets. If I had the opportunity to do it all over again, id do it the same. I wouldn't trade my kids for anything and I can't imagine life without them. They are incredible kids who will grow to be amazing people. They are such a gift to me and the world.
I can't replace their dad and I don't want to. I want him to be there for them. My boys need a dad to teach them boy stuff. I don't fish, I suck at sports and I know nothing about puberty or any of that stuff. My girls need to be little princesses. They should be going to daddy daughter dances and being told how beautiful they are from him. I just hope he realizes it soon before its too late. It hurts me so bad that they dont have that. I'm hoping in time it will get easier. Either their dad will step up fully or ill be able to fill in that gap somehow.

I've learned a lot about myself in the past year. I spent 16 years of my life as an extension of someone and now I'm my own woman. I think its been great. I know that I am capable. I am stronger than I like to admit. I deserve more than I had gotten and that I am important. I'm a really good mom. I still make too many mistakes, but I'm going to learn from them. I am thinking about what I want to do with my life after the kids are all in school. I would love to start taking college classes and start volunteering. I want to learn to sew and grow a garden.
I've learned who my true friends are. I have a few really awesome friends who have helped with my kids, just so i could keep some of my sanity. I have a great neighbor that I know I can count on if I need anything. He has saved my car battery more than once. I have someone special to me that treats me great and makes me very happy. Its such a great feeling knowing I'm not alone.

The past year has been rough. We have had Leeya's gtube surgery, Ty's hospitalizations, Jaxson's hospital stay and gj placement, at least a dozen ER trips and too many Dr appointments. I've learned of a few more diagnosises for my kids. I've battled sleepless nights, sibling arguements and tantrums all day. I've yelled too much. I've wiped too many tears, from the kids and from me. With no relief. I can't use that saying "just wait til your father gets home" like I used to.



I'm determined to give my babies the life they deserve... single, exhausted mom and all.
love your blog....and you are a wonderful mom...from one single mom to another!
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